7 Ways to Connect with Volleyball Moms
Starting a new season of club volleyball is an exciting adventure, but it can also feel a bit overwhelming—especially if you’re new to the world of travel teams and volleyball tournaments. One of the best ways to make the journey more enjoyable (and manageable!) is by building a strong support network and connect with fellow volleyball moms. These connections can turn into friendships, offering not just practical support but also a shared sense of camaraderie that makes every win, loss, and road trip more meaningful. In my own experience, some of the moms I’ve met along the way are still good friends – long after our kids moved on to college. Here are some tips on how to connect with other volleyball moms and create a supportive community that’s there for you and your athlete.
Be Open and Friendly at Practices and Games
Our family has been lucky to be a part of some great clubs and seasons. I’ve known experienced volleyball moms who were gracious enough to help me find my way through the new systems at several clubs. But it all started with how I initially approached them.
Start by introducing yourself to other parents at the first few practices and games. It can be as simple as a quick, “Hi, I’m [Your Name]. My daughter/son is on the team for the first time this season. Have you been part of the club before?” Most parents are friendly and just as eager to connect, especially if they know you’re new.
Consider sitting with or near other parents rather than on your own. If the team’s warming up, casually ask the mom next to you, “Have you guys done travel volleyball before?” Or if you notice a parent cheering on their child, say something like, “Your daughter has a great serve!” Small compliments and casual questions often break the ice.
Start a Group Chat for Team Parents
This is a great way to connect with other moms and dads. A group chat can be a lifesaver for coordinating rides, sharing tournament details, or sending out last-minute updates. Heck, we would sometimes warn each other if the parking situation was difficult or traffic was bad enough to delay arrivals. If there isn’t already a group set up, volunteer to create one! I did — and it was incredibly easy. Tools like WhatsApp, GroupMe, or even a basic text group can work wonders for keeping everyone informed and connected. Consider creating ‘sub-chats’ for each travel tournament too. This way your correspondence thread doesn’t spam parents not traveling with the group that weekend.
Carpooling: A Win-Win for Busy Parents
Club volleyball often involves traveling for tournaments and games, and arranging carpools is a great way to split the driving load and get to know other parents. It’s also helpful for times when schedules conflict or you need a backup driver. If you find a nearby family, say, “Would carpooling be helpful? I’m happy to drive every other practice, and it might save both of us a little time.” If you’re going to a tournament that’s a couple of hours away, try reaching out to the group chat: “Would anyone want to split the drive for Saturday’s tournament?” Sharing rides also gives you valuable bonding time, and post-game stops can be more fun together, like grabbing a quick coffee to unwind before heading home.
Organize A Team Potluck
Team socials don’t just bring the players closer together—they’re also a great way for parents to connect. Whether it’s a potluck after a game, quick treats after a game or a pre-season dinner, taking the initiative to organize a gathering can help break the ice with other parents. After a weekend tournament, suggest a group meal nearby: “Would anyone be up for grabbing lunch together at [restaurant] before heading back?” Or, if a few families will be at the same hotel, suggest a team pizza night in the lobby to help everyone relax and bond.
Volunteer for Various Team Mom Roles
Most club volleyball teams have various volunteer roles to fill, from organizing snacks , managing team game recording, to keeping track of stats or fundraising. Volunteering for a role helps you stay involved and creates natural opportunities to interact with other parents. Honestly, it’s how I became such good friends with many of my daughter’s teammates friends. There’s no better way to get to know a volleyball mom in trenches with you working for the team! If you’re detail-oriented, offer to manage the snack schedule or set up a sign-up sheet for post-game treats. Or, if you’re social media savvy, suggest creating an Instagram account to share team photos or setting up Facebook Live for games or tournaments. (with the coach’s permission).
Respect Parents’ Boundaries but Stay Engaged
While it’s great to connect, remember that some parents might prefer to keep their involvement low-key. Read the room, and respect boundaries if a parent seems less interested in socializing. Keep your interactions positive and inclusive without pushing too hard, as not everyone feels comfortable diving right in. Notice how different parents prefer to be involved. Some might hang back and cheer quietly, while others jump in to organize snacks and carpools. Follow their lead. For example, if a parent seems a bit reserved, focus on a friendly “hello” each time you see them rather than a deep conversation.
Be a Source of Encouragement
Supporting other parents during the ups and downs of the season builds bonds and a supportive culture. Believe me, there will be playing time gripes, injuries, coach drama, general drama with players on the team that might not be getting along. Be cognizant of how your new friends are feeling by offering to listen without judgement. This does NOT give them a free license to whine and complain every time you speak with them. (if this starts happening often, run the other way) Complimenting their child’s performance, sharing encouragement after tough games, or simply offering a kind word can go a long way. When parents feel like part of a caring community, everyone benefits, especially the players.
New to the travel volleyball clubs? For more tips and inspiration, check out our guides on how to pack like a pro for your first club volleyball tournament, handling conflicts with coaches, and the emotional journey of watching your athlete as a volleyball chapter closes. These posts will help you feel prepared and supported throughout the season!
